FAILURE, FEAR $ DETERMINATION……….
“Failure establishes only this, that our determination to succeed was not enough” ~Christian Nestall Boveen (1820-1904).~
QUITTERS NEVER WIN.
Probably the greatest example of persistence is Abraham Lincoln. If you want to learn about somebody who didn’t quit, look no further. Born into poverty, Lincoln was faced with defeat throughout his life. He lost eight elections, twice failed in business and suffered a nervous breakdown. He could have quit many times—but he didn’t and because he didn’t quit, he became one of the greatest presidents in the history of our country. Lincoln was a champion and he never gave up. Here is a sketch of Lincoln’s road to the White House:
1816 His family was forced out of their home. He had to work to support them.
1818 His mother died.
1831 Failed in business.
1832 Ran for state legislature—lost.
1832 Also lost his job—wanted to go to law school but couldn’t get in.
1833 Borrowed some money from a friend to begin a business and by the end of the year he was bankrupt. He spent the next 17 years of his life paying off this debt.
1834 Ran for state legislature again—won.
1835 Was engaged to be married, sweetheart died and his heart was broken.
1836 Had a total nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months.
1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature—defeated.
1840 Sought to become elector—defeated.
1843 Ran for Congress—lost.
1846 Ran for Congress again—this time he won—went to Washington and did a good job.
1848 Ran for re-election to Congress—lost.
1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state—rejected.
1854 Ran for Senate of the United States—lost.
1856 Sought the Vice-Presidential nomination at his party’s national convention—got less than 100 votes.
1858 Ran for U.S. Senate again—again he lost.
1860 Elected president of the United States.
The path was worn and slippery. My foot slipped from under me, knocking the other out of the way, but I recovered and said to myself, “It’s a slip and not a fall.” Abraham Lincoln After losing a senate race
ARE YOU DETERMINED?
The Determination am talking about is not the one of writing your goals down on paper and doing nothing about it. This is that you are ready to push through whatever comes your way until something happens no matter the circumstances.
Habits and characters.
The greatest factors that affect the determination of a person is hos/her habit and character and am going to explain little about them here.
|Your habits and character sometimes actually helps in the determination of your destiny. Strange thing if you discover you have several habits that why habits has the letter ‘S’ but character does not have ‘S’ why? Character is just a lifestyle with different styles. No person can ever have many character no matter how you camouflage you can’t change your character never! But someone can have many habits, because if you actually have more than character your end can never be certain.
They almost seem alike but are different in some ways; it is your habits that become your character. If you are a type of person that procrastinate you will have a procrastinative(my own words) character.
| WATCH YOUR THOUGHTS,
THEY BECOME YOUR WORDS.
WATCH YOUR WORDS,
THEY BECOME YOUR ACTIONS.
WATCH YOUR ACTIONS,
THEY BECOME YOUR HABITS.
WATCH YOUR HABITS,
THEY BECOME YOUR CHARACTER
WATCH YOUR CHARACTER,
IT BECOMES YOUR DESTINY……..
Managing your time
The great philosophers, doctors, actors, actress and entrepreneurs never live their lives without managing their time, that is planning on what they want to accomplish that day. If you miss manage your time you miss manage your destiny. Make maximum use of your time every day, try your best in life not to let any second in life pass you by without accomplishing anything, even if you are sleeping, sleep that sleep so that when working you won’t feel sleepy. If it means having a daily, weekly, or monthly time – table just do it, in other to manage your time well remember “time is of the essence”.
Struggle to always be on the top and remain there
In life we always have to struggle to get to where we want to be we never get it on a platter of gold and if we are there we struggle to remain there. The struggle am actually referring to here is not the one of physical strength but of mental strength. To remain on top of your class or whatever, you have to be a type of student that reads wide to expand your mental capacity. Every struggle comes with a reward big or small(but take note “no reward is ever small).
+ Never look at your passed success:
In this case, never use your previous or past result to judge your coming/future result. You are not in competition with anyone but yourself, you goal is to beat your previous result. Your main purpose is to beat your previous performance in whatever you do I repeat again. Success actually is not a place you reach and stop, it is a continuous journey without an end.
The fact you are on top of now does not mean you can’t lose that position, life is like a race, everyone is given all they’ve got to be ahead, so if you want to remain where you are never be relaxed, work, work and work. You have no leisure time, you have no time to rest you had that when you were an infant, you can only rest now if you decide to die. You were given a head to stay ahead.
Stop limiting yourself
A philosopher once said “life has no limits unless you have made it yourself”. Sometimes people don’t achieve there purposes or destiny because they feel they’re not worth it, while some when accomplished a little feel that’s enough then they relax.
Stop seeing yourself like it has been a curse in your generation that none of you are to be successful. Every bodies earnest desire is success but most people limit themselves from these success. Life has no full stop, even after death the second phase of life continuous
L= live it. I= impact it. F= fulfil it. E= enjoy it.
Stop limiting yourself because you can actually accomplish more than what you have accomplished more than what you have accomplished now.
You are not too small to make a difference
Never judge yourself by your height,age, ethnicity, nationality or race. It doesn’t matter how small you are, at your age you could shake the earth or perharps the world.
Anita Koddick said”if you think you are too small to make a difference you haven’t been in bed with a mosquito.”
Termites could pull down an entire building if you give them time. Even though they are that small they still make differences not minding their status or sizes. Even in the bible David a boy of 17years slayed a giant so much fit taller than him. What’s deceiving you? Is it your height, age or background. Never underestimate your capacities or capabilities we all possess in us a spirit greater than us only even we are willing to unleash it into the world we would still see ourselves as small persons that could do nothing.
Do you have a destination?
You can’t head out for success if you don’t know what you want to attain. In life people have different perceptions of the same thing. A thing might have different meaning to thousands of people. You can’t wake up one morning take your bath dress like business man stop a bus and where you’re asked where you’re going you just reply saying I don’t know, you will just sound like a mad man that has just escaped from the psychiatric hospital.
Fear can be defined as : False Evidence Appearing Real.
Spencer Johnson once said “when you move beyond your fear, you feel free”
Martin Luther king once said “faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole stair case”
One of the greatest limitations to your success is fear. If I could recall vividly some years when I seated for an examination, while I was writing the inspector shouted 15mins remaining, due to the fact I was afraid I began to shake, my hands , may legs they all began to shake why? Simply because I was afraid I would not answer the whole question.
Now fear is something that when we are determine to overcome we would. Elbert Hubbard said “the greatest mistake you can make in life is to continue fearing you would make one”.
7(seven) secrets to a great life: by Kathy gates
A great life doesn’t happen by accident. A great life is the result of allocating your time, energy thoughts and hard works towards what you want your life to be. Stop setting yourself up for stress and failure and start setting up your life to support success and ease.
A great life is the result of using 24hours 7days you get in creative and thoughtful ways instead of just what comes next. Customize these `secrets’ to fit your own needs and style and start creating your own great life today!
1, S-simplify: A great life is the result of simplifying your life. People often misinterpret what simplify means. It’s not a way to remove work from your life. When you focus on simplifying your life you free up energy and time for the work that you enjoy and the purpose for which you are here. In order to create a great life, you will have to make room for it on you first.
2, E- effort: A great life is the result of your best effort. Creating a great life requires that you make some adjustment. It may mean re-evaluating how you spend your time, or choosing to spend your money in different ways. It may mean looking for a new way to coincide with your particular definition of a great life. Life will reward your best effort.
3, C-create priorities: A great life is the result of creating priorities. It’s easy to spend your days just responding to the next thing that gets your attention, instead of intentionally using the time, energy you have in a way that’s important to you. Focus on removing the obstacles that get in the way of you making sure you are honouring your priorities.
4, R-reserves: A great life is a result of having reserves things, time, space, energy. With reserves you acquire the far more than you need. Reserves are important because they reduce the fear of consequences, and that allows you to make decision based on what you really want of what the fear decides for you.
5, E- eliminate distraction: A great life is a result of eliminating distraction up to 75% of your material energy can be tied up to things that are draining and distracting. You eliminating distractions can be a difficult concept to many teenagers, since they haven’t really considered that there is another way to live. Look around at someone’s life you admire—what do they that you would like to incorporate into your own life? Ask them how they did it. Find ways to free up your mental energy for things that are more important to you.
6, T- thoughts: A great life is the result of controlling your thought so that you accept and allow for the possibility that it actually can happen to you. Your belief in the outcome will directly dictate how successful you are. Motivated people have specific goals and look for ways to achieve them. Believing there is a solution to the same old problem you encounter year after year is vitally important to creating a life that you love. Whatever you think and believe, you create. Listen to what you are telling yourself and adjust that voice if you need to.
7, S- start: Every great life always have a starting step. A great life is the result of starting. There’s the old saying everyone’s familiar with “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”. In order to even move from the couch to refrigerator, you have to start. There’s no better time to start than today. Don’t wait for the day to start getting old, don’t wait till you get older than you are. Today, right now is the day to start to take a step in the direction of your heart desires. It is what you do TODAY that will make a difference in your life TOMORROW.
Be failure – proof
To be failure proof you must have an unconquerable faith, totally consistent and goal directed emotions, a will surrendered to cause greater than yourself, and an idea for achievement or service that has incubated it’s time and is now ready to hatch into acceptability.
Change possibilities to probabilities.
First, you must be upset with discontent. Inventor Charles Kettering said”a problem well started is a problem half solved”. The second, you must vividly imagine the long range goal. Third, you should build excitement by listing all the benefits to yourself, your family and to everyone involved. Fourth, you must dedicate yourself, commit yourself, surrender yourself to attain this goal.
The achievement of your goal is assured the moment you commit yourself to it. The realization will require time.
Imagination – Dreams, Goals – Direct, Enthusiasm – Propels, Persistence – Propels.
Insight on failure
If Michael Faraday had believed in failure —– we would still be living in darkness. If Henry Ford had given up we would still be ridding or horses backs or perharps trekking. If Alexander Graham Bell had given into the clutches of failure we would be spending less time staring at those small plastic things we call phones that rule our lives [which might not be a bad thing].
Seriously – anyone who has achieved ANYTHING great, anyone who has CHANGED THE WORLD has at some point made a choice to embrace failure not fight it.
When I mean “embrace failure” I don’t mean accept that they are failure and they have failed, simply the learnt from it, because if failure never comes you will never know where you are wrong or right, failure corrects us indirectly but not everyone sees it that way.
If you look at the most inspirational innovators, athletes, geniuses, and icon throughout history, they all shared common belief – they simply did not entertain the notion of failure as a bad thing. Instead, they understood that every failure encountered brings you one step closer to success and that this is a natural part of the process. Some even enjoyed failure, but am not saying failure is good or when you fail you should be happy about it. If you think about it failure is just a feedback; it simply shows you what’s not working so you can find out what will work. It’s necessary and can’t be avoided. If we didn’t have failure how would we know what’s next to do? The process of learning from our mistakes is truly invaluable and is something we need to run towards and face, not to run away from.
FAILURE IS ONLY THE OPPORTUNITY TO BEGIN AGAIN BUT THIS TIME MORE WISELY AND INTELLIGENTLY.
DON’T BE AFRAID TO FAIL. DON’T WASTE ENERGY TRYING TO COVER UP FAILURE, LEARN FROM YOUR FAILURES AND GO ON THE NEXT CHALLENGE. IF YOU ARE NOT FAILING YOU ARE NOT GROWING.
Opening the creative spirit in you
Creativity quite goes with talent but creativity needs the activeness of your mind. Creativity is not a product of the hand but the mind, the hands are just tools that bring it to the physical realm. Do you think you’re not smart enough to think of what to invent? Or do you think that all the important things have already been invented? Scientifically proven that all man has even invented has never use up to 10% of the brain. God gave man a head to be ahead, the essence of creativity is advancement and progress. Every invention is invented by an inventor(someone) without an inventor to initiate them, there would be no events on earth.
Steps to success
No matter how old you are, where you’re from or what you do for a living, we all share something in common—a desire to be successful. Each person’s definition of success is different, however, as some may define success as being a loving or a caring and responsible parent, while most people would equate success with wealth, fame, and power.
We all want to achieve success so we could live a comfortable life—have financial freedom, drive a nice car, and live in a beautiful house. However, although success can be achieved, it does not come easy.
There are a lot of tips and strategies out there on how to be successful in life, but I am still a firm believer that there is no better way to succeed than to follow that footsteps of those who have already done so. Here are 13 success tips from some of the world’s most successful and renowned people:
From Michelangelo Buonarroti, Great Renaissance Artist: “The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark.”
2.Find what you love to do and do it.
From Oprah Winfrey, Media Mogul: “You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job and not be paid for it.”
- Learn how to balance life.
From Phil Knight, CEO of Nike Inc.: “There is an immutable conflict at work in life and in business, a constant battle between peace and chaos. Neither can be mastered, but both can be influenced. How you go about that is the key to success.”
- Do not be afraid of failure.
From Henry Ford, Founder of Ford Motors: “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”
- Have an unwavering resolution to succeed.
From Colonel Sanders, Founder of KFC: “I made a resolve then that I was going to amount to something if I could. And no hours, nor amount of labour, nor amount of money would deter me from giving the best that there was in me. And I have done that ever since, and I win by it. I know.”
- Be a man of action.
From Leonardo da Vinci, Renaissance Genius :“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”
- Avoid conflicts.From Theodore Roosevelt, 26th President of America: “The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.”
- Don’t be afraid of introducing new ideas.From Mark Twain, Famed Author: “A person with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.”
- Believe in your capacity to succeed.From Walter Disney, Founder of Walt Disney Company: “If you can dream it, you can do it.”
- Always maintain a positive mental attitude.From Thomas Jefferson, 3rd President of America: “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.”
- Don’t let discouragement stop you from pressing on.From Abraham Lincoln, 16th President of America: “Let no feeling of discouragement prey upon you, and in the end you are sure to succeed.”
- Be willing to work hard.From JC Penny, Founder of JC Penney Inc.: “Unless you are willing to drench yourself in your work beyond the capacity of the average man, you are just not cut out for positions at the top.”
- Be brave enough to follow your intuition.From Steve Jobs, Co-founder of Apple Inc.: “Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
9 Reason Most Teenagers Fail
Simply put, what does every person want? Success in their pursuits. Unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen, and here are the top 9 reasons why people fail.
1.They give up: It crushes me to see it–a human being full of potential…giving up. Suicide is the ultimate expression of giving up, and in my opinion it is life’s most tragic event. We all have a place in this world, and suicide is giving up before you find it.
Giving up isn’t always so obvious. If you’ve ever seen someone you love give up on their dreamor struggle, even temporarily, you know of the sinking feeling you get. Giving up is the number one reason people fail because it is the only permanent failure. As long as you are actively trying, you have not failed yet. But once you give up, success will not arrive unexpectedly.
You can have the worst strategy and focus on all of the wrong things, but as long as you keep trying, you will learn and have hope. That is an important truth.
Failure happens; none of us escape unblemished. But for every single person who has ever lived, the secret of life is an unflinching, inspiring little phrase that has shaped nations, bought freedom, saved lives, and fulfilled so many dreams…
- They don’t care:Obviously, if you don’t careabout doing it well, you won’t. Apathy can infect any area of our lives, and when it strikes, it produces bucketful’s of failure. The scariest part of apathy is how contagious it is. You’ll have it in one area of life, feel the resulting failure, and let it spread to another area. Or your apathetic friends will rub off on you.
This is one more reason to experiment and try different things – to ward off apathy. The more excited about your life and the possibilities to explore, the better! Apathy can often lead to theworst-case scenario of human life. That worst-case scenario is next on the list as the number one reason for failure, and it’s the saddest thing you’ll ever see in a human being.
Lesson: The more you care, the more you’ll succeed.
- They’re in the wrong place:Sometimes failure is simply a matter of location – the wrong country, the wrong state, the wrong job, the wrong hobby. This is the tricky aspect of failure – knowing when to move on to something else. Not all people are capable of success in all things.
Right now, there is someone doing a mediocre job at work, who could be world class in another field. Is it you? This is a good reason to experiment and try different things – you might latch on to something and love it enough to succeed with it.
Lesson: If a fish and a human switch places, they will both die of suffocation. Location matters.
- Excuses:– they blame anyone and everything but themselves
“If she didn’t … If I wasn’t living here… If the economy… If that hadn’t happened…”
Blaming others, while a lousy thing to do, isn’t even the problem – it’s the poisoned perspective it reveals! Do you know what it really means?
Excuses and throwing blame are the same way of saying, “I’m not in control.” Now that’s scary.
Everyone had a perfect excuse when the economy went into a recession in these past few years, but after telling everyone their perfect excuse, they were still in the same mess. Meanwhile, other people did well because they adapted.
Excuses feel good temporarily, but don’t be fooled, they can only hurt you. Accept full responsibility for where you are, and you’ll have a chance to change it for the better.
Lesson: You are the only variable you can control in this world.
- They’re scared:Fear must be cold, because it freezes people. Deer are famous for freezing right before a car hits them. Like that situation, freezing in place isn’t a smart strategy in life.
Progress paves the way to success.
If it takes 10,000 hours to master something ( as Malcolm Gadwall suggests) and fear makes us do nothing, then fear needs to go. Face your fears head on and you’ll find success right behind them. Overcoming fear is success in itself, and it opens the door for more.
Lesson: Fear is failure’s not-so-secret weapon.
Bonus tip: Fear itself is afraid of the spotlight. Get into the habit of confronting it, and soon enough, it will be afraid of YOU.
- They are pessimists:If you go in expecting to fail, you’ve got a great chance to do it. If I expected Deep Existence to wear me out, be unpopular, and waste my time, why would I write this? Pessimism leads to failure because it decreases the amount of effort a person will put forth. Success requires effort, which is fueled by the perspective that your efforts are not in vain.
Lesson: You instinctively hesitate to invest in a sinking ship, even if you’re the one sinking it.
- A single battle distracts them from the war:It is disappointing to lose any battle. Sometimes it’s devastating. If your business fails, if your book or script is rejected, if you don’t make the basketball team, it’s tough to be positive.
But the war is not over, is it? If your business fails, won’t you know several key things NOT to do next time? Objectively, it’s a highly useful learning experience.
Make sure you’re not one of the many people who attach their identity to a submarine. If you mentally attach your identity and your chance to succeed in school, and it fails… ouch. Your really cool submarine is destroyed, and you’re stuck 1000 feet under water. Instead, why not see your school privilege as a ship that could possiblytake you where you’d like to go. That way, if it sinks, you can jump overboard and still join a pirate crew.
Don’t view your business or current life pursuit as a submarine. If it fails, you’ll drown in disappointment. View it as a ship, preferably with lifeboats. What’s that? Yes, I know submarines are cooler. Oh, you’d like your submarine painted to look like a shark? Fine. You may view your business as a submarine shark. Sigh.
The optimal strategy in life is to focus on winning the battle you’re in. I think most of us get this step right, but miss the next crucial one.
The most successful leaders in the history of warfare were the ones who could modify their strategy quickly, decidedly, and strategically. Do you do the same in your life?
Lesson: If you’re not currently in battle or have just finished (an event), zoom out your focus to determine the current best strategy, then zoom back in and prepare for your next battle.
- They try to climb a mountain before they even leave the house:For 2016, my goal is to do one push-up per day. One push-up a day is easy, but it doesn’t get you very far. The value comes fromstarting.
When you aim high, intimidation is common, and that puts your goal at risk. If my goal was 50 push-ups a day, I would have failed at times and gotten discouraged. Sometimes I do 50 push-ups a day with my “too easy” challenge, and I don’t ever feel discouraged.
This is more relevant for daily tasks and goals than long term dreams. Don’t dream to be a mediocre person. Dream big, but break that dream down into small, daily actions that inch you closer to it every day.
Lesson: One tiny step forward beats one giant leap sideways.
- They don’t plan:Improvised living will give you unexpected results. You will always have a better chance to succeed in any venture if you have a plan. By forming a simple plan, former non-planners will increase their rate of success. When you make your plan, be sure it’s specific. Having a complete vision of your intentions prepares you to execute them and you’ll be more likely to flatten obstacles in your way. I’m not just saying that. It’s been proven to be more effective.
Specific intentions work better because vague intentions are open to interpretation.
“MY GREATEST CONCERN IS NOT WHETHER YOU FAILED BUT WHETHER YOU ARE CONTENT WITH YOUR FAILURE”