HABITS, MOTIVATIONS AND AIMS……………
Every teenager has a destiny…. Every teenager has a reason for existence… Every teenager has a gift… Every has a God given talent… And Every teen must under – take the journey of life.
7 HABITS OF HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL TEENAGERS
For teens life is not a play ground, it’s a jungle and being the parent of a teenager isn’t any wail in the park either.
How will they deal with peer pressure? Motivation? Success or lack thereof? The life of a teenager is full of tough issues and life – changing decisions.
- Be Proactive
Being proactive is the key to unlocking the other habits. Help your teen take control and responsibility for her life. Proactive people understand that they are responsible for their own happiness or unhappiness. They don’t blame others for their own actions or feelings.
- Begin With the End in Mind
Teens aren’t clear about where they want to end up in life, about their values, goals, and what they stand for, they will wander, waste time, and be tossed to and fro by the opinions of others. Help your teen create a personal mission statement which will act as a road map and direct and guide his decision-making process.
- Put First Things First
This habit helps teens prioritize and manage their time so that they focus on and complete the most important things in their lives. Putting first things first also means learning to overcome fears and being strong during difficult times. It’s living life according to what matters most.
- Think Win-Win
Teens can learn to foster the belief that it is possible to create an atmosphere of win-win in every relationship. This habit encourages the idea that in any given discussion or situation both parties can arrive at a mutually beneficial solution. Your teen will learn to celebrate the accomplishments of others instead of being threatened by them.
- Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood
Because most people don’t listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that many don’t feel understood. This habit will ensure your teen learns the most important communication skill there is: active listening.
Synergy is achieved when two or more people work together to create something better than either could alone. Through this habit, teens learn it doesn’t have to be “your way” or “my way” but rather a better way, a higher way. Synergy allows teens to value differences and better appreciate others.
- Sharpen the Saw
Teens should never get too busy living to take time to renew themselves. When a teen “sharpens the saw” she is keeping her personal self sharp so that she can better deal with life. It means regularly renewing and strengthening the four key dimensions of life – body, brain, heart, and soul. ***********************************************************************Every teenager has to overcome many challenges to make exploit, but no matter how many times you fall because of temptation, never relent because your end is definitely better than your beginning. Everybody has something to offer to the world but only a few do why? Because they’re afraid the might fail again after the first try, they prefer to remain where they are so to avoid more failure. Failure doesn’t break you, it makes you. The only time you fail is when you’ve decided not to try again.
The “ogsm” magic.
“O”BJECTIVE: This is an aim or a goal, a place to be captured, having the principal image. As teens we all have an objective or objectives, something we would love to hit and count it as one of our achievement. Objectives is something that is required of us for success in whatever we do, it is not a day job, set – up your objectives daily, hit them one by one, and discover new things.
“G”OAL: Anybody without goal(s) isn’t really living, in everyday activity, you must have a goal. Goal and objectives almost would look like they’re the same thing, but goals take longer time to get captured than objectives. Goal is an aim you foresight
As Dale Carnegie has so well put it “if you want to be happy set yourself a goal that demands your thought, liberates your energy and inspires your topic”.Happiness is within you. It comes from doing some certain things to which you can put all of your thought and energy. If you want to be happy get enthusiastic about something outside yourself”
“S”TRATEGY: How would you hit your target? If anybody success in that particular thing you were ordained for then you have no reason for existence. Without strategy, without a strategic plan in life, of life, and for life you are going nowhere.
“M”ESURMENT: Calculate how long it would actually take you to attain a particular goal. One year, One month, One week or there about. Our lives also has its own Metre rule which is called “CLOCK”. This little device as it may look has a lot to do with use calculating and planning our live because without it, we can’t tell how far we have gone in life.
- JOHN MASEFIELD said: ”man’s body is faulty, his mind is untrustworthy, but his imagination has made him remarkable”. Your key personal success today for today is imagination, the power and motivation of a magnificent mind, reaching beyond itself to scale height never before Vivid imagination hunts for the ideal solution to life’s problems and good and then dynamic imagination has the power to change what is found, to sift the information and bring the best result.
Two college presidents, Dr. Donald cowling and Dr. Carter Davidson, say that the function of the imaginative, creative mind are these:
- Ability to concentrate.
- Accuracy in observation
- Retentiveness of memory
- Logical reasoning
- Sensitivity of association
- Creative imagination.
- Sensitivity of association
- Logical reasoning
- Retentiveness of memory
- Accuracy in observation
Seven steps to imagination
In Mr. Osborn book, `Applied Imagination`, Osborn outlined the steps in the creative and productive imagination.
- Orientation; pointing up the problem
- Preparation; gathering pertinent data.
- Analysis; break down the relevant material
- Ideation; piling up alternatives by ways of ideas.
- Incubation; letting up, to invite illumination.
- Synthesis; putting the pieces together.
- Evolution; judging the resultant.
Dr. Maxwell Maltz in the book psycho- cybernetics says: creative imagination is not something reserved for that poets, the philosophers, the inventors, it enters into our every act, for imagination sets the goal, the picture which our automatic mechanism works on. We act, or fail to act not because of will as is so commonly believed but because of imagination”
“IMAGINATION RULES THE WORLD” …..Napoleon Hills
Your key for success today is that you are motivated by what you believe.
George Elliot said “ we must not inquire to curiously move into motives. They are apt to become feeble in the utterance : the aroma is mixed with a grosser air. We must keep the germinating grain away from light”. For motives are as vital as our heart beat.
TWO PRINCIPLES OF MOTIVATION
In the book, The magic of Emotional Appeal, the author says that there are four principle of motivation.
- Self – preservation: This, of cause is the strongest of all. When a man has his back to the wall and his very life is at stake, he will fight with supernatural strength.
- Recognition: This is the second most important. No man wants to be a zombie, yet so many are. They’ve lost their identity – their self respect.
Every person s individualistic. Every man is different. We must learn our selves. We must understand ourselves. We can make our lives meaningful, magnificent rather than a meaningless odyssey.
The emotionally matured man(teen) is so much better and able to motivate himself than a man(teen) of mixed, confused and immature emotions. Some of the things that are important in helping motivation are: the capacity to trust others; the ability to be self – critical; a deep self of self – assurance; and the ability to manage and administer without becoming personally involved in the detailed work. Feel like you were meant for something, always see yourself different from other people(teen). Think your life through everyday, discover and re – correct yourself, always make yourself feel special.
18 TIPS TO BE A MORE SUCCESSFUL YOUNG LEADER.
Are you afraid of carrying responsibilities, are you afraid to ever voluntary for something, do you know that you have every quantity to be a leader at your teen age, here are 18 tips to be a successful young leader:
- Be confident. But be careful to not confuse confidence with arrogance. To do this, you need to know fully what you are talking about. When you do speak, speak with conviction.
- Leadership is about vision. it’s about giving new or original perspectives to things. One who has his own understanding and interpretation of things will distinguish himself from others. Thinking for yourself implies not talking anything for a fact. Always look for a personal distance and understanding, one should never reply on others knowledge, work or judgement.
3.”Inspire others to take action by showing your own action, commitment and good work for a better world. Make it easy for people to step in and join forces if they want to help.
4.”Be ambitious and do not be afraid to take risks. “Jared Costanzo, president and founder of the Student Voice Project. Do not be afraid to be idealistic. If you happen to fail, you will recognize your strengths and limitations and be better to adapt in the future. Only by knowing your limit can you fully maximize your potential. Of course, the scope of your limit will lessen over time through experience.
5.Never let someone tell you that you cannot do something. If something isn’t out there, go create it.
6.Be organized.In order to work effectively, you will need to be organized. If you are disorganized, you will tend to forget certain things.
7.Be able to articulate your thoughts and speech thoroughly and efficiently. This also includes being able to delegate tasks and being clear of your expectations.
8.Be able to establish your goals and commit to your plan. “Sometimes structure, deadlines, and plans aren’t the best way to lead. At times, it is more effective to go with the flow, take it as it comes and explore each new opportunity. But, despite this, you always need to keep in mind your end game, your objective. “”Be patient with your goals. Go on your own timeline.”
9.”Make sure your project, campaign or endeavour solves a problem and you that have clearly defined what the problem is and how you are going to solve it.
10.Know the strengths and weaknesses of yourself and your team. Being a leader does not always mean that you are the most intelligent or capable person within a group. It just means that you have an ability to organize people and are able to utilize each person’s skill set. “Leading isn’t an easy task — not everyone can do it. I believe if you are truly passionate about the area you are leading in, not only will you be a successful leader, but there is no end to what you can do. Nothing material can slow you down, only your passion can drive you.
11.Be fair. To gain the trust and respect of your followers, you need to be fair. If an opportunity comes up, do not automatically look to your close friends or colleagues. Let everyone know and have the same chance to get whatever it is.
12.Be clever. If something does not work out, try an alternative method. If you do not have enough resources for a project, look in your community to see if it can be easily donated or lent to you.
13.Be optimistic. After all, optimism is what is needed to change the way this world works. “What you expect tends to happen.
14.Remember that you are young. Be energetic! Personally, I try not to act so serious all the time. Recognize that you are still young and embrace all that your prime has to offer for you.
15.Connect! Strive to make a vast and diverse network of friends and colleagues. You will never know when a person will become handy. I have created a support system through my peers and colleagues. Everyone benefits from a big network. If you want to network with someone you do not know, just introduce yourself through a message and add them anyway.
16.Know when to give “the talk,” and do give it when it is necessary. If a member of your team volunteers for a task or have accepted a task delegated by you, they are making a commitment to execute it. Sometimes there are valid reasons that prevent a person from completing their duties and in those cases, you have to accept it when they happen.
17.Have a right-hand man (or woman).This is a go-to person that you trust.
18.”Know when to listen to others, and when to listen only to yourself.
Live your dream
People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it
Make It Come True
In 1957 a ten-year-old boy in California set a goal. At the time Jim Brown was the greatest running back ever to play pro football and this tall, skinny boy wanted his autograph. In order to accomplish his goal, the young boy had to overcome some obstacles. He grew up in the ghetto, where he never got enough to eat. Malnutrition took its toll, and a disease called rickets forced him to wear steel splints to support his skinny, bowed-out legs. He had no money to buy a ticket to get into the game, so he waited patiently near the locker room until the game ended and Jim Brown left the field. He politely asked Brown for his autograph. As Brown signed, the boy explained, “Mr. Brown, I have your picture on my wall. I know you hold all the records. You’re my idol.” Brown smiled and began to leave, but the young boy wasn’t finished. He proclaimed, “Mr. Brown, one day I’m going to break every record you hold!” Brown was impressed and asked, “What is your name, son?” The boy replied, “Orenthal James. My friends call me O. J.” O. J. Simpson went on to break all but three of therushing records held by Jim Brown before injuries shortened his football career. Goal setting is the strongest force for human motivation. Set a goal and make it come true.
Perharps the greatest social service that can be rendered to anybody to a country or to mankind is to bring up a good teenager,
If teenagers live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If teenagers live with hostility, they learn to fight. If teenagers live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive. If teenagers live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves. If teenagers live with ridicule, they learn to be shy. If teenagers live with jealousy, they learn what envy is. If teenagers live with shame, they learn to feel guilty. If teenagers live with tolerance, they learn to be patient. If teenagers live with encouragement, they learn to be confident. If teenagers live with praise, they learn to appreciate. If teenagers live with approval, they learn to like themselves. If teenagers live with acceptance, they learn to find love in the world. If teenagers live with recognition, they learn to have a goal. If teenagers live with sharing, they learn to be generous. If teenagers live with honesty and fairness, they learn what truth and justice are. If teenagers live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those around them. If teenagers live with friendliness, they learn that the world is a nice place in which to live. If children live with serenity, they learn to have peace of mind. With what are your children living?
Another Check Mark On The List
One rainy afternoon an inspired 15-year-old boy named John Goddard sat down at his kitchen table in Los Angeles and wrote three words at the top of a yellow pad, “My Life List.” Under that heading he wrote down 127 goals. Since then he has completed 108 of those goals. Look at the list of Goddard’s goals which appears below. These are not simple or easy goals. They include climbing the world’s major mountains, exploring vast waterways, running a mile in five minutes, reading the complete works of Shakespeare and reading the entire Encyclopaedia Britannica.
1.Nile River 2.Amazon River 3. Congo River
- Colorado River
- Yangtze River, China
- Niger River
- Orinoco River, Venezuela
- Rio Coco, Nicaragua
Study Primitive Cultures In:
- The Congo
- New Guinea
- The Sudan (John was nearly buried alive in a sandstorm.)
- The Philippines
- Tanganyika (now Tanzania)
- Mount Everest
- Mount Aconcagua, Argentina
- Mount McKinley
- Mount Huascaran, Peru
- Mount Kilimanjaro
- Mount Ararat, Turkey
- Mount Kenya
- Mount Cook, New Zealand
- Mount Popocatepetl, Mexico
- The Matterhorn
- Mount Rainer
- Mount Fuji
- Mount Vesuvius
- Mount Bromo, Java
- Grand Tetons
- Mount Baldy, California
- Carry out careers in medicine and exploration (Studied premed and treats illnesses among primitive tribes)
- Visit every country in the world (30 to go)
- Study Navaho and Hopi Indians
- Learn to fly a plane
- Ride horse in Rose Parade
- Iguacu Falls, Brazil
- Victoria Falls, Rhodesia (Chased by a warthog in the process)
- Sutherland Falls, New Zealand
- Yosemite Falls
- Niagara Falls
- Retrace travels of Marco Polo and Alexander the Great
- Coral reefs of Florida
- Great Barrier Reef, Australia (Photographed a 300-pound clam) 50. Red Sea
- Fiji Islands
- The Bahamas
- Explore Okefenokee Swamp and the Everglades
- North and South Poles
- Great Wall of China 56. Panama and Suez Canals
- Easter Island
- The Galapagos Islands
- Vatican City (Saw the pope)
- The Taj Mahal
- The Eiffel Tower
- The Blue Grotto
- The Tower of London
- The Leaning Tower of Pisa
- The Sacred Well of Chichen-Itza, Mexico
- Climb Ayers Rock in Australia
- Follow River Jordan from Sea of Galilee to Dead Sea
- Lake Victoria
- Lake Superior
- Lake Tanganyika
- Lake Titicaca, South America
- Lake Nicaragua Accomplish:
- Become an Eagle Scout
- Dive in a submarine
- Land on and take off from an aircraft carrier
- Fly in a blimp, hot air balloon and glider
- Ride an elephant, camel, ostrich and bronco
- Skin dive to 40 feet and hold breath two and a half minutes underwater
- Catch a ten-pound lobster and a ten-inch abalone 80. Play flute and violin
- Type 50 words a minute
- Take a parachute jump
- Learn water and snow skiing
- Go on a church mission
- Follow the John Muir Trail
- Study native medicines and bring back useful ones
- Bag camera trophies of elephant, lion, rhino, cheetah, cape buffalo and whale
- Learn to fence
- Learn jujitsu 90. Teach a college course
- Watch a cremation ceremony in Bali
- Explore depths of the sea
- Appear in a Tarzan movie (He now considers this an irrelevant boyhood dream)
- Own a horse, chimpanzee, cheetah, ocelot and coyote (Yet to own a chimp or cheetah)
- Become a ham radio operator 96. Build own telescope
- Write a book (On Nile trip)
- Publish an article in National Geographic Magazine
- High jump five feet
- Broad jump 15 feet
- Run a mile in five minutes
- Weigh 175 pounds stripped (still does)
- Perform 200 sit-ups and 20 pull-ups
- Learn French, Spanish and Arabic
- Study dragon lizards on Komodo Island (Boat broke down within 20 miles of island)
- Visit birthplace of Grandfather Sorenson in Denmark
- Visit birthplace of Grandfather Goddard in England
- Ship aboard a freighter as a seaman
- Read the entire Encyclopedia Britannia (Has read extensive parts in each volume)
- Read the Bible from cover to cover
- Read the works of Shakespeare, Plato, Aristotle, Dickens, Thoreau, Poe, Rousseau, Bacon, Hemingway, Twain, Burroughs, Conrad, Talmage, Tolstoi, Longfellow, Keats, Whittier and Emerson (Not every work of each)
- Become familiar with the compositions of Bach, Beethoven, Debussy, Ibert, Mendelssohn, Lalo, Rimski-Korsakov, Respighi, Liszt, Rachmaninoff, Stravinsky, Toch, Tschaikovsky, Verdi
- Become proficient in the use of a plane, motorcycle, tractor, surfboard, rifle, pistol, canoe, microscope, football basketball, bow and arrow, lariat and boomerang
- Compose music
- Play Clair de Lune on the piano
- Watch fire-walking ceremony (In Bali and Surinam)
- Milk a poisonous snake (Bitten by a diamond back during a photo session)
- Light a match with a 22 rifle
- Visit a movie studio
- Climb Cheops’ pyramid
- Become a member of the Explorers’ Club and the Adventurers’ Club
- Learn to play polo
- Travel through the Grand Canyon on foot and by boat.
- Circumnavigate the globe (four times)
- Visit the moon (“Some day if God wills”)
- Marry and have children (Has five children)
- Live to see the 21st Century (He will be 75).
Common Habits AmongPositive Minded People.
Education gets you to the point you want to get but character keeps you there. Be positive about life. Winners don’t do different things; they do things differently.
And here are some “CHAPMP”
= Celebrate who they are: They celebrate who they are no matter what. Never do they look down on themselves. You carry an important message within you and important message are carried by important people.
= They Appreciate life perfect and great moment: You own your future and you owe your future a great personality. When you play not to loose you don’t go far, you have to think through a problem to bring out a solution.
= They embrace life challenges and take it: Success is a budget. No matter how a challenge comes accept it, fight it and come out outstanding.
= They welcome change: Try something new, something you have never don’t before. Why you have not brought out something new is because you have not tried something new. Try and add “extra” to your ordinary to become extraordinary. The future is waiting for prepared people(teenagers) not preparing people(teenagers).
=They’re never dreamless: One go thing about dream is that nobody owns it. You don’t pay money to dream. Ideas rule the world, they future only delivers to you how far you dream.
= Spend time with positive minded people: You have generations lying on your shoulders, if you fail they have failed only by grace can they be revived. There are people who will never become great until you become great.
What type of friend do you keep? What value do they add to your life?, are they helping you acquire your earnest desires??????
“success is a budget, my future is a potential growth and am working on it”
HOW TO IMPROVE YOURSELF AS A PRINCIPLED PERSON
- Accept yourself the way you are.
- Identify your strength and weakness and make good use of them.
- Develop your abilities and be proud of them.
- Develop self – confidence and ability to express your feelings, especially towards matter of morality.
5.Develop self – respect and love for yourself and others.
- Do not allow others make personal decisions for you.
- Do not give up easily or be defeated.
- Do not blame others for your own failure, instead work harder to correct or avoid it next time.
Five success solutions
Success would be rarely found in anybody who does not possess the following options below:
- Love for yourself: if you possess self-hate, you hate your skin colour, your nationality, family background or whatever trust me the word success would never be found in your dictionary. The first step to succeed show be love. Without love you are just an empty vessel.
- Love for others:Loving and caring for yourself only is emotional stinginess, it gets you nowhere, if you can’t care for the people around you or for whosoever is not close to you, you can’t go where you are heading to in life.
Be yourself. Accept yourself. Forgive yourself. Trust yourself. Empower yourself. Know yourself. Become yourself.
+ Time management:
Time is the precious jewel on earth, it is the greatest asset anybody can possess. Your time is your life.
- Time can’t be stored up for use later, once time is gone it can never be regain.
- You don’t waste your time you waste your life each time you do something irrelevant.
- You can recover anything else in life, but you can never recover your time once it is gone/wasted.
Questions you should trying asking yourself : “Is the most effective use of your time?”
+ Acquisition of knowledge:
Use the knowledge you acquire to get what you desire. Say to yourself – I am invaluable, I’ll read every day to become valuable.
+ Cultivate the right attitude. Attitude of gratitude. What today would be like is up to you
“YOUR ATTITUDE DETERMINES YOUR ALTITUDE”
- Be Positive in your thinking..
You must learn to think victoriously. If life throws bad things at you, you can overcome it.
Don’t be a victim all head to being a victor.
|· Always complaining.||· They use there creativity.|
|· Always giving excuses.||· They’re always taking actions.|
|· Repeat behaviours.||· Try something new.|
|· Keep blaming.||· Seek for solutions.|
“THINK YOU CAN OR THINK YOU CANNOT ARE RIGHT EITHER WAY YOU WOULD BE RIGHT”
+ Develop positive leadership traits.
“A place can be underdeveloped because the leaders are not what they should be.
Leadership is an act not a position, leaders earn respect thy don’t demand it.
Qualities of a good leader :
~ Integrity. ~ Optimist. ~ Humility
~ Compassion. ~ Self-awareness. ~ Solution provider.
Motivation + Imagination + Actions = Brings out the best in us.